Today, I found myself complaining. Nothing serious. Very "First World Problem" type of complaining. The person on the other end, in this case my girlfriend, listened patiently. Sometimes, I don't know why she does it. The other times, I know very well. It's because I fu*king rock.
But rock as I might, today, I sucked. Why? Because complainers, as a rule, suck.
This statement might piss some people off and I am happy to provide that stimuli for them. I am writing this for myself as well, to clear my own head and allow my higher self to give my lower self a talking to. This is schizophrenia as entertainment, so you might as well enjoy it while you can..
You Really Having NOTHING To Complain About
I know that you can think of all kinds of exceptions, but I'm including them too. When I was a cancer patient at the ripe old age of eleven, there was a young child who had gone blind due to a brain tumor. The list of the health complications that he had to endure was endless. The pain he was in on a daily basis was immense. Yet, as I lay next to him in our shared room at The Children's Hospital in Denver, I witnessed first hand that courage, compassion and positivity had absolutely nothing to do with your circumstances, but everything to do with your heart and your spirit.
His laugh was infectious, his smile was something that everybody commented on. It was beautiful. And the real kicker is, as young as he was, this kid understood his situation medically was basically hopeless. It didn't phase him one bit.
Here I was today, complaining about what? Friends acting silly? Come on.
Everyone gets cranky now and again. That's fine and human. Accept it and don't take it for more than what it is.
But it's when complaining becomes a way of life that it becomes slippery. Thinking that you are either a victim or too good for anything around you is a direct signal to the world and to your unconsciousness that you are not fit for the situation.
My mentor mentioned a great method to use when you feel the need to complain. Here it is:
1) Frame the problem as if it was EXACTLY what was supposed to be happening to you at this exact moment to help you develop.
2) Ask what is perfect in the situation. (This might be really, really hard. You might have to think for awhile. But I bet that you will find SOMETHING good about the situation.)
3) Become thankful for the good and become eager for the future. This is such a powerful place to be. Not just on a metaphysical level, but in a very practical and psychological way.
4) Approach the situation for gratitude and optimism. Then ask, "How can we have fun and kick ass right now?"
5) Then do it.
This is the complainer's cure. The antidote. Try to use it for a month and see what happens.
Mark my word, the change will be miraculous.