Of all of the biggest misrepresentations out there in the self development space, the one that is the most debilitating for most people is, in my mind, the need to have a "why" or a "vision". Anybody who works within this motivational space will attest that by far, one of the most common questions that they are asked on a consistent basis is "How do I find my passion?"
Am I against having a strong why or a powerful vision and going full tilt to make it happen? Of course not. Some of mankind's greatest heroes have done it that way. But, here's the thing. A much larger percentage of those we consider successful in their pursuits weren't following some premeditated vision. They were following the road to service and being useful with their unique abilities.
The quest for vision has left millions upon millions of people chasing their tails. They are told that if they just find their "why", if they just unlock the true desire of their inner spirit of uniquely special specialness, that the heavens will open up and soul mates, riches, and low body fat will rain down into their lives like magic
Jesus is told to have once said "Those who our first shall be last, and those who are last shall be first." There are obviously many ways to interpret these things, so bear with me, but what I perceive in this line is in the follow "retranslation". "Those who go after selfish gains first will always end up last in the most important ways. Those who serve others completely and fully will not only gain success, but also the love and gratitude of those whom they serve."
Now, some of you are likely saying something like "So and so billionaire did not serve other people!" Maybe they haven't in every case, sure. I'll give you that. Some can steal or cajole it out a stone. Some possess virtuoso level talent at the art of money getting. But, in many cases, if we find the right perspective, we will find that they absolutely provided value for a vast number of people. Richard Branson provides many services to others, with customers company wide giving them astronomically high reviews in service and quality of the product. Apple computers, Microsoft, etc - all of these companies, and indeed the founders who have been billionaires through them have gotten there through providing massive amounts of value and service for many others.
They might have had some sort of a vision, but it aligned with what made them useful to others. It wasn't them imposing their will on others.
So, if you are trying to find your "thing" and have been chasing your "definite purpose", "why", or "vision" - I invite you to instead find the first opportunity you can find to provide a service or platform or product for someone. Then, execute it to the best of your ability. Develop it. Stick..build it. Get better at the process. Then repeat.
It's all about being useful and all about the service you present to others. I know from very personal experience just how much that change in mindset changed my life and I'm 100% positive that it will do the same for you.